but whyyyy
Mar. 13th, 2022 01:41 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bingo_a Lol i gotta say, I find it really weird and dumb that PCY stans on Twitter are so strongly focused on insisting that he didn't cheat on his alleged gf or whatever it was she accused him of, assuming that his girl was real in the first place. There's really no proof either way from a neutral POV. But these stans are out there angrily grabbing every post about that and insisting that it's not true. To me, this is the wrong way to go about this lol. i mean, putting aside for a second that the people who are so offended by PCY cheating on a gf or having hordes of ONS women and all of that, those people are highkey dumb too.
But my question for both camps is why do you care? You don't know PCY, you will never know him IRL, you will never be his friend, much less his girlfriend, why do you care what he does in his private life? Like, is that why you're a fan bc you believe him to be someone who closely follows your own moral code? Bc that is WEIRD lmfao. I stan people for some combo usually of their looks and talent, sometimes personality if it's in any way relevant, but a lot of the times it's not bc i don't have time to check out everything they do offscreen or away from music yk?
So I could not care less if my faves are dating 500 women at once or have no concept of a monogamous relationship. I really don't care. It's not my business, they're not my friends, and as long as it doesn't badly affect their career, i just don't care. Hell, even if i did care, it wouldn't make any difference right? I don't care who else wants to stan them and who doesn't. Some people have zero good reason to not like someone. It might be something they personally believe in, but makes zero sense to anyone else.
Y'all need to quit policing everyone else's morality, and especially in fandom spaces because that's not even real life. For example, I don't like Wang Yibo. I don't like him bc he's bad actor and he has a fanbase of annoying af fujoshis whom i can't stand and he was in that stupid wuxia that all the ifans love so much bc hits all their fave fetishizing notes. The fact that he's a bad actor is less important than all the latter stuff, which I totally blame him for. SO it doesn't matter what else he does, I will always dislike him for those reasons. And idc if you think they're irrational, i will still dislike him even if you argue against any of the points i just said.
Point is, if there's people who don't like PCY bc they think he's a cheating womanizer, unless PCY HIMSELF comes out and strictly and explicitly says that he's neither one of those things, those people will always dislike him. Your insistence that he never did this that and the other will not get through to them. That's why i say that the best method is to not care. Because if you're out here arguing madly that he didn't do those things, what you're saying is that you care about whether he did or not and your standom is based on those things. If you don't care, then you're free. If other people want to dislike him for any reason, that's their business.
You wouldn't go to the park and set your picnic down next to the only pile of dog shit, so why are you so focused on and obsessed with the stuff you can't control? Namely, other people and the things that offend them. Find another spot in the park lmao.
But my question for both camps is why do you care? You don't know PCY, you will never know him IRL, you will never be his friend, much less his girlfriend, why do you care what he does in his private life? Like, is that why you're a fan bc you believe him to be someone who closely follows your own moral code? Bc that is WEIRD lmfao. I stan people for some combo usually of their looks and talent, sometimes personality if it's in any way relevant, but a lot of the times it's not bc i don't have time to check out everything they do offscreen or away from music yk?
So I could not care less if my faves are dating 500 women at once or have no concept of a monogamous relationship. I really don't care. It's not my business, they're not my friends, and as long as it doesn't badly affect their career, i just don't care. Hell, even if i did care, it wouldn't make any difference right? I don't care who else wants to stan them and who doesn't. Some people have zero good reason to not like someone. It might be something they personally believe in, but makes zero sense to anyone else.
Y'all need to quit policing everyone else's morality, and especially in fandom spaces because that's not even real life. For example, I don't like Wang Yibo. I don't like him bc he's bad actor and he has a fanbase of annoying af fujoshis whom i can't stand and he was in that stupid wuxia that all the ifans love so much bc hits all their fave fetishizing notes. The fact that he's a bad actor is less important than all the latter stuff, which I totally blame him for. SO it doesn't matter what else he does, I will always dislike him for those reasons. And idc if you think they're irrational, i will still dislike him even if you argue against any of the points i just said.
Point is, if there's people who don't like PCY bc they think he's a cheating womanizer, unless PCY HIMSELF comes out and strictly and explicitly says that he's neither one of those things, those people will always dislike him. Your insistence that he never did this that and the other will not get through to them. That's why i say that the best method is to not care. Because if you're out here arguing madly that he didn't do those things, what you're saying is that you care about whether he did or not and your standom is based on those things. If you don't care, then you're free. If other people want to dislike him for any reason, that's their business.
You wouldn't go to the park and set your picnic down next to the only pile of dog shit, so why are you so focused on and obsessed with the stuff you can't control? Namely, other people and the things that offend them. Find another spot in the park lmao.
